October 3, 2018 may have been a normal Wednesday for most, but for my family (shown above at the 1st Dance 4 Life Event 3 years ago) this marked the ten-year anniversary of my sister Amy’s passing. Over time the pain of losing her has lessened, but the pain caused from a suicide loss can never be completely healed.
My family was left with many unanswered questions. Was there was something we could have done? How could we have not seen the warning signs? Did we see the warning signs and choose to ignore them? The answers to all these questions will go unanswered, and we now know what happened was out of our control. What we do get to control is how we choose to remember her. Do we remember her as someone we lost to suicide? Or, do we remember the person she was at her best?
For many years we chose the first option. We mourned her loss at her birthday and at the anniversary of her suicide. We spoke of how she died often, and spent too much time trying to figure out “what went wrong”. Three years ago I decided something had to change. Enough time had passed that we needed to start processing the pain in a new, healthy way, for where we were in the grieving process. This was the start of our annual Dance for Life event
To hear my full story, and more details about how Dance for Life was created, read this post from 2016: https://smfcpowerofexercise.wordpress.com/2016/11/03/i-am-suicide-survivor/
Our third annual Dance for Life event will be held on November 20, 2018 from 8:30am to 12pm at Saint Mary’s Fitness Center. This year’s event will be a $5-10 suggested donation and it will benefit the Crisis Call Center.
The schedule is as follows:
8:30 am: Welcome & Refreshments
9 am: Cardio Dance with John
10 am: Barre Basics with Stacey
11 am: Yoga with Eren
I would like to invite anyone who has lost someone to suicide to come, dance, and celebrate the lives of those we loved and lost. This year, ten years after my sisters passing, I will dance for Amy. A kind soul who touched everyone she met. Who will you dance for?
By: Eren Sanborn, Group Exercise Supervisor, Saint Mary’s Fitness Center